Love is good every day, we interviewed some creative girls from around the world. But no, there are no couples here, they’re just friends being friends, and one interview is just about self-love and self-appreciation because we feel that to be happy on your own, it’s the best gift you can make. Hope you like it!
Hélène Feuillebois, Photographer, Paris | Michèle Côté, Fashion Photographer Montreal living in London| Friends
HOW YOU MET AND WHEN?
Hélène Feuillebois: In a rather weird turn of events, we found out we were dealing with the same guy while living respectively in Montreal and Paris. we did not meet IRL until two years later when she moved to London. it’s a pretty odd way to make a friend, I definitely did not befriend everybody I got cheated on with, but Michèle is the kindest person I’ve ever met. when we started communicating, more than for myself, I was mad that someone so beautiful inside and out had been treated so poorly. I bawled for hours on her wedding day. I still tear up when I think about it. I’ve never rooted for someone so hard in my life. seeing her happy warms my heart.
WHATS WAS YOUR IDEA AT FIRST SIGHT?
H: My first idea of her was that we were similar in a lot of ways but that she was stronger, better at life in general. now I think that while we have very similar interests and taste, we are different in many ways. but still, she’s stronger and has her stuff more together than I do!
Michèlle Côté: I thought she was so confident and strong in whom she was and I admire that so much. I could tell she cared very deeply for those she loved. I respect her honesty and how vocal she is about her opinions. We understand each other’s creative grind and thus motivate each other with constant support. We have a lot of similar interests but we execute them differently, which I think is so cool.
DO YOU FEEL FREE TO LOVE ANYONE IN 2017, WHY?
H: I’m not the type of person who likes being dictated what to do or how to live. I’ve always loved who I’ve loved. I’ve been lucky enough to live in a city big enough that I’ve never had to live in shame, or question if it was weird that I was attracted to both girls and boys. I grew up around queer family members, family friends, it’s been normal to me from a young age. now that I’m older and conscious that gender binary erases a lot of people (to quote young thug « gender does not exist »), I hate the word « bisexual ». I’m attracted to different souls, different lights, regardless of gender.
M: I feel very free to love. I am in the healthiest relationship I’ve been in and I am so happy to say I am married to this person. I understand how lucky I am, I am grateful for all the love and the life we share together. I know it’s so so so happy to say stuff like this especially around Valentine’s day, but whatever, I mean it.
IF YOU COULD SHARE YOUR LOVE TO WHO WOULD BE AND WHY?
H: If I could, I’d share love to everybody in Mayotte, the french island my family is from. the situation is pretty critical over there, barely reported in the media and people are desperate and feeling left out by our government. it’s the most beautiful place I’ve ever seen, and I grew up between there and Paris. as of now, it’s not really safe to go and it’s one the many things that keep me up at night.
M: I would like to share love to all women who are struggling against governments that tell them what they can and can’t do with their bodies. They often have to make tough, sometimes dangerous decisions and I’d like them to know they’re still loved whatever they choose to do.
WHEN DID YOU MEET?
María Osado: We met in the street, it sounds weird cuz we are so close now. We looked at each other and she asked to take a picture of my outfit, then we asked for our contact information and that was it.
WHAT DO YOU LIKE THE MOST ABOUT EACH OTHER?
M. I admire how fearless she’s about life stuff, the way we dance in parties, her humor and vision about the creative industry.
Samantha: Maria is my dance mate, we have a powerful connection. What I admire the most about her is her congruence. If she doesn’t like something, she changes it.
HOW DID SOCIAL MEDIA HELP WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
M. The basic tool was the e-mail, haha. Without it, it would’ve been difficult to make appointments. The Internet’s still a tool, and then we had meetings in real life ofc. But what inspires us most, and the way we share the most is online.
DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA, HAVE YOU EVER BEEN INVOLVED IN A SITUATION LIKE THAT?
M. Social media are powerful, but just as you can meet someone you really like through them, you can make everything end with a DM. I believe in being clear, honest, having good feelings, whether it’s online or IRL.
I believe in sexting, but in love through social media def not.
S: Love is love no matter what. Distance is the worst. Virtual relationships exist and have to be. I find very interesting to be and not to be.
Daniela Sendra, México, fashion assistant and stylist | Self-love
WHAT DOES YOU THINK IS THE NICEST THING ABOUT SELF-APPRECIATION?
The power it gives you to do the things you love. And how it affects the people and surroundings you are in. It’s like an energy that pulls in the good and pushes the bad or phony things.
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DISCRIMINATED BY SOMEONE? TEL US ABOUT IT.
Oh yeah! All of the time! Jaja. Just today a guy that was pissed because I changed to his lane without marking it, yelled at me “stupid guy, oh wait what are you? Are you a girl? What strange thing are you?” I was pissed because what if I’m trans? Or have problems with my identity? People think that words are not hurtful, but they can be if can target at the insecurities of another person. I didn’t mind it because I like that people don’t know my gender sometimes, and I’ve come to accept that I’m my own type of woman, but you never know what the other person is going, through.
HAVE YOU EVER WANTED TO BE SOMEONE ELSE?
Yes, of course, but it was never from a place of “I don’t like myself I wish I could be this or that”. My desire to be someone else comes from “ I wish I could see what this person does every day” or that I’m a huge fan of their talent, and want to be THAT good in something. I am very good with some things but struggle a little bit in the process so when I see someone that has a great talent and it comes so easily for them, is when I say “I want that”.
IF YOU COULD SHARE YOUR SELF-LOVE WITH SOMEONE, WHY AND WHO WOULD IT BE?
If I’d share my love I’ll give it to all of the people struggling with identity in gender or sexual. Or to someone that is having a great deal of pain and problems with how they look. This is because I’ve had times like this and was alone. I hate that it’s always the people that need more understanding, the ones that are more alone. Everyone should have someone to talk or give advice when they need it. We all deserve love so, basically, I’ll give my love to everyone so they can have love in their life. LOVE TO THE PEOPLE & WORLD PEACE EVERYONE, COME AND GET IT!!